In this short article I
would like to discuss how important self acceptance is and
how you can improve your life by accepting who you are.
Why is self-acceptance
It is so important because
if you do not accept yourself for who you really are you
will create a number of problems in your life. Some of these
problems are internal affecting you personally and some will
affect how others treat you.
Let's quickly look at some
of these problems:
- Low self esteem -
denying who you are or being blind to what you really
want means you may suffer from
low self esteem
- Living a lie - if you
do not accept yourself you may push yourself to be what
you are not and the result is a false life. If you feel
that you are living a life which is not you perhaps you
have this problem.
- Unhappiness -
connected to the last two points because you will not be
enjoying life as you are ignoring your inner voice and
- Becoming a victim -
if you do not accept yourself you may believe what
others tell you and become a victim
- No trust in yourself
can follow when you are unsure of who you are and what
What happens when you
accept yourself for who you are?
Self-acceptance means that
you understand who you are and where your strengths and
weaknesses lie. You know what you want. This will allow you
to be comfortable with your place in the world.
If you can build your self
confidence you will live a life free of self criticism and
you can begin to face the challenges in your life and
succeed. Imagine being at ease with people, being able to
speak in public and feel good about yourself, no more
shyness or fear.
If you accept yourself you
can also value yourself and tell others that they should
respect who you are. You will also be able to accept others
and not demand that they try to reach your standards.
Self acceptance means that
you are happy with who and what you are but it does not mean
that you give up any hopes of change or improvement. Self
acceptance is a necessary first step towards self
improvement because you need to see the truth about yourself
and accept it and then decide whether or not you can change.
What steps can you take
to increase your self acceptance?
Take time to think about
who you are - your personality, your background, what
makes you tick
Understand that there are
both positive and negative aspects of who you are and
you should accept these as part of who you are
Are there things about
yourself which you don't like? Ok, maybe you can improve
but first acknowledge them and accept them
Are you trying to be
something you're not? Why? Wouldn't it be better to be