Awakening Cost You Some Friends
by Gregg Prescott, M.S.
Have you noticed a change
in your relationships with other people lately? Is it
sometimes difficult or awkward to talk to others about
spiritual topics? Do you, at times, feel alone in your
beliefs? Have you lost contact with any long time friends
recently? You are not alone!
I'm fortunate to have a lot of Facebook friends who post
similar types of links. Too many times, I see a lot of
people who talk the talk but are afraid to walk the walk,
due to being ridiculed for their thoughts and posts
(GROUPTHINK). I've lost some longtime friends because of
this but have made many, many new ones. Once the ego is
released, you no longer worry about conformity and peer
Groupthink is a psychological phenomenon that structures
various belief systems within a group of people while
discouraging individual creativity and independent
thinking. Even within a group of individuals who are
spiritually awakened, you will find groupthink.
If you look at the recorded history of mankind, you’ll find
that this history is merely someone’s interpretation of a
landmark event or evolutionary process, backed by eyewitness
testimonial, scientific data, video or faith. The actual
truth may be hidden or distorted for many reasons, but
mostly for control and power. Look no further than the
origins of mankind and you’ll find a plethora of creation
myths from all cultures with varying dates of our
existence. Who’s right?
When you talk to people about these topics, they tend to
remain inside the box with a belief system that supports
religion’s story of creation, which dates mankind back to
4000 B.C. If you raise questions about our true origins, it
tends to separate people and relationships between those who
think outside the box versus those who think inside the
box. When these topics arise within relationships, they
often create dissention. It’s hard for anyone to admit
they’ve been deceived for so long and even more difficult to
admit they were possibly wrong in their assumptions.
This is a prime example of how our educational systems keep
us locked inside the box without questioning anything about
what we’ve been taught. Those who remain inside the box are
afraid of what others might think if they venture outside
the box, so they remain complacent and subservient while
conforming to what society dictates rather than relying on
their own discernment and judgment. People could live their
entire lives pretending to be what society expects them to
be and not even know it!
From an ego perspective, our thoughts are basically
cultivated by what we’ve learned from our family, friends,
educational systems and religious beliefs, but what have we
truly been taught? What can we say about
anything that wasn’t regurgitated to us by someone
As evidenced by past life regressions, our previous lives
and soul history remain dormant in our cellular DNA and can
be recalled through our subconscious minds through
hypnotherapy. Within your cellular DNA, you actually
remember being back with the Source along with all of the
things you wanted to accomplish during this incarnation, as
well as all of the challenges you wanted to overcome and all
of the people who would lead you to where you are. This
includes the people that have come and gone from our lives.
Sometimes, we project to be someone that we expect others to
see in us. In psychology, this is referred to as the shadow
self, where we project an identity that conforms to how
other people may perceive us versus being true to who we
really are. Some people may find out that they never knew
who they were because they lived their lives through the
expectations of how others will perceive them.
Those who have begun their spiritual journeys may also be
confronting these issues, which initially creates cognitive
dissonance. Cognitive dissonance occurs when you get an
uncomfortable feeling caused by holding conflicting ideas
simultaneously. This is the transition period that many of
us have gone through, where our beliefs have changed, yet
we’re unsure about relating these new ideas to our friends
and family, due to fear or rejection.
As our spiritual journeys continue, we become more
comfortable within our own beliefs and less concerned about
how our friends and family view this awakening. This is
when the ego becomes separated from the self and fear is
dissolved by love. At this juncture, we begin to talk to
acquaintances, as well as friends and family, about
spiritual and metaphysical topics, with less regard about
what they might think of us or how we may be perceived by
In time, spirituality will be the predominant frame of mind
and it’s likely that those who have strayed from us will be
the first in line to ask for help in adjusting to the new
Remember this: You are not alone! Those
who truly love you will stand by you, no matter what. Those
people who are no longer part of our lives have already
played their role in helping us find out who we truly are.
Sometimes, it takes polarity to be able to differentiate
who we are and where we're going. This is where the
unawakened help immensely, by providing that contrast which
allows us to see the differences.
Envision each awakened person across the planet holding a
candle. While your individual candle may not seem like a
lot of light, it greatly contributes to making the world
FULL of light and keeps us connected, no matter how far
apart we may be. While it may be painful to lose some dear
friends, think about what they have brought to your life and
Chances are, you’ll end a few old relationships with people
who were, at one time, very close to you, only to create new
relationships with like-minded people. Forgive yourself, as
well as your friends, if you feel badly about this. They
came into your life for a reason a season or a lifetime:
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a
lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know
what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually
to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist
you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and
support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there
for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to
bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force
you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need
has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The
prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because
your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you
an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you
something you have never done. They usually give you an
unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only
for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid
emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love
the person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that
love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
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